There were me, that is Ulf, and my friend Christian sitting in that restaurant near Basel, having lunch together and talking about behavioral change, something easy like changing a habit of oneself in a flash, pwah… e.g. changing the habit of lifting things off the floor with ease and style as opposed to bend over and behave “old”…
We were exchanging our impressions that behavior sometimes seems even robotic and that we also encounter difficulties ourselves in dealing with habit and change. And the impressions when looking at politics in this context are really not suited to calm down our… concerns
I like to use a bar graph to show the relationship between stimulus and response in this way:
This representation is quite appropriate when we talk about our habitual reponse to anything. Considering the immediacy of most of our reponse to any stimulus, the sudden transitioning of stimulus into the repsonse side of the diagramm is representing quite well our habitual conditioning. In that sense we might even speak of our behavior being “robotic”.
We have yet to learn how we could establish a space between stimulus and response and exercise our freedom to choose our response. In other words though we theoretically have the freedom to choose our response, we practically never claim this freedom. We certainly didn’t learn it at school.
You may have heard of the Marshmallow Test. Daniel Goleman brought it to my attention only in the nineties, but actually it was first performed in my childhood in the sixties (at Stanford University). The test serves to demonstrate our ability (or the lack thereof) to delay gratification and it has even some predictive value for later “success” in life. When looking out into the world it looks to me like we are eating more Marshmallows than we produce! We want to have the result, and we want to have it right now. If you reason it out, striving for immediate gratification makes only for robotic behavior. Old fashioned marketing would like that because it counts on conditioning “reflexes”, creating habits and automated behavior.
Frederick Matthias Alexander was passionate about this issue. On educating the children (remember that we all are a children, simply having had a couple of additional brthdays?) he maintained: “Give a child the ability to adapt himself within reasonable limits to his environment, and he will not suffer discomfort, nor develop bad physical habits” [… By using time, thought, and creativity] we may train the child to win its own conscious control, and rise superior to any probable limitations imposed by ordinary school fittings. For the problem to be solved in education is that same problem which needs solution in the social, political, religious, industrial, economic, ethical, aesthetic, and other spheres of […] progressive human activity. ( in “Man’s Supreme Inheritance” 1910 / 1946 Ed.)
F.M. Alexander was so spot on that I wonder why he wrote such a brand new idea already 100 years ago?
In response to this idea my friend Christian came up with his wonderful image of
Out of mere interest, years ago Christian took apart one of those grandfather clocks where weights on a string or chain actually make the clock hand move forward.
After having mounted it together again, he should have put back the pallet lever (In German called “Anker”).
The pallet lever is an integral component of a mechanical watch. Its purpose is to release the escape wheel one tooth at a time, at each swing of the pendulum.
The lever is shaped like a ‘T’, and is pivoted in the center; in operation it rocks back and forth. On the arms of the ‘T’ are angled surfaces (pallets) which alternately engage the teeth of the escape wheel, hence pallet lever.
But he forgot and by having forgotten this minor detail, the clock hands now were rushing through the minutes and hours, moved by the weights that continually and rapiidly were moving down till they reached the floor.
And this equivalent reminded him of the importance of taking the time to reflect and plan our actions, how we want them to be and how we need to shape them to increase the likeliness of a desirable outcome.
The impact is far reaching, I mean faaaaar reaching:
In his book “Blue Zones” (a book written about people having become older than 100 years and still leading an active lifestyle and participating fully in life) Dan Buettner points out that for becoming a centenarian there does not exist a magic bullet, but a confluence of healthy practices. And in this book he quotes a Sardinian centenarian, Raffella Monne, : “Life is short. Don’t run so fast you miss it.”
Another great point Christian’s metaphor alludes to.
Re-claiming your very own space of freedom between stimulus and response is critical and can only be done by something that Alexander tackles in his groundbreaking work.
A cautious estimate on the effects of changing our lifestyle – which essentially means changing habits – means adding easily another 10 years to our life expectancy, compared to pursuing an average western life style.
Growing older is inevitable for all of us, but how we will be growing old (and frail) is in good part a matter of our choices — or: the way our decline unfolds is up to us.
Dan Buettner (and the demographers and medical scientists he accompanied) make the compelling case that we can live a shorter life with more years of disability (an idea that public health tracks down with the concept of QUALY – the Quality Adjusted Life Years and that basically measures the disease burden of a group of people.) Or we can live the longest human life possible with fewest bad years possible. That requires our creativity and in the end our mental discipline to carry decisions for adapting and implementing healthier life habits.
Like Pogo, Walt Kely’s porcupine character, says to Porky: “Yep son, we’ve met the enemy, and he is us”
Are you ready to take this a step further, towards a healthier life and would you like to see how applying it to your life looks like?
Commit to action on creating better habits. If improving movements seems a feasable way to get hooked on this, then I have a thrilling offer to make: click on this link and participate in my prize draw that by the end of this month, in a couple of days, comes to an end.
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When I started to write the last post, I didn’t realize it would eventually be going so deep into self-exploration as I am now noticing.
As much as I want to express my passion for people, I just can’t reach everybody. I guess that’s just the way it is. It would be unreasonable to expect anything else: there are certainly many that don’t even want to know about me and my work. But there are some, who really can benefit from my professional help and yet don’t know about my work. There, I can give with care and passion something meaningful, while being respectful to the other – and to myself simultaneously.
“Simultaneously” – what a great thought! A professional colleague of mine reminded me today. I am stunned! I’ve never had this idea when displaying respect to the other person to think that, at the same time to also give myself the same due respect.
I have been observing time and time again how challenged I feel when people don’t give each other that respect I think is due. And the degree to which I am challenged is more often than not out of proportion in comparison to the trigger-event.
So, it looks like my last post is getting me into a self-exploration, something I really never would have thought when I started this blogging journey or started on the last blog post …
This week I had an interesting encounter with a client – she was having severe pain on her face and asked for help. She had been looking in all the places she could imagine, had been to several dentists, looked into help from competent doctors, competent complementary therapists and was suffering from a nerve pain in her face that was considered to be an inflammation of the trigeminal nerve.
When I worked with her the pain happened to be still excruciatingly sensitive – which was a good thing, because we then had a very clear discriminating measure to find out if it was going to improve or get worse immediately during our meeting.
When I gently touched her neck from the front, let’s say, starting from where the top button of the shirt that she is wearing and then slowly move upward, I can feel her voice box. Continuing past the voice box, is the transition area to the (lower) jaw. The bone of the lower jaw can be palpated.
Did you know you have another bone in the middle of that outside rim that makes for your lower jaw?
I didn’t either.
But, when I touched this area I couldn’t believe the solidity of that region. In other people this bone is usually called the tongue and other muscles. I always thought that muscles are defined as soft tissues, but certainly not in her case. Never have I encountered such an amount of force in this region on anybody during the past 30 years!
When we worked together on releasing that amount of tension, the effects were dramatic:
The pain in her neck disappeared, the headache went away, the tasting in the tongue came back, and most importantly the excruciating pain in the face disappeared within a course of ten minutes.
This event and other events like e.g. Katie’s on this page leads me to conjecture, that not all of the problems we encounter are purely structural, bony and part of a group of symptoms indicating a major health issue – though it is always a valuable thing to be on guard for that possibility – but we are such innovative creatures capable of moving violently against ourselves that we cause such major harmful impact on our well-being and sometimes with even severe consequences.
When you develop interest in your own movement quality, when you start studying it with the due diligence your own well–being deserves, then this study is not some new hobby, but it really is something worthwhile studying – because you learn a life skill that is serving you for a lifetime and (as F.M. Alexander puts it) it becomes incrementally more effective year by year.
So why do only so few people dedicate some of their time to it?
- Well, first of all only very few people know about this possibility, that they literally can learn some reasoning skills that can help them tremendously in their everyday life.
- Only few people would ever believe that they are that powerful and can have a major influence on their wellbeing to such a degree.
- As long as it doesn’t hurt they don’t care.
- People are too busy being frozen in front of their computer and feel drained at the end of the day.
- Not everybody is ready to replace habits that don’t serve them with new behaviors that help them.
Why is this so? I have not run a large study sample but over the years I have accumulated some experiential data while having met and worked with thousands of people, and here are my best guesses:
- I believe it is ineffective information politics or you may call it bad marketing. That depends on how you look at it, but it is something that I am targeting e.g. with my blog here.
- That is certainly because school didn’t teach us — we are not taught in schools— not taught about this possibility neither in schools or elsewhere. Since our parents and teachers don’t know about it, there is slim chance of us knowing about it.
I taught ten years (1987-97) at the Stuttgart University of Music and Performing Arts. The level of understanding how performance is related to the physical movement was stunningly low! That was one of the reasons why my classes were always filled and overcrowded..
- Unless you have a strong reason to change, you will always continue in the ways you have always done – I can easily relate to that one myself.
- Because that’s what you know, and it gives you a sense of comfort.
- You may be tired of old habits that hold you back, but you may be too tired to pick yourself up
A certain mindset is necessary for people to get moving in this direction. To really get yourself into the mindset of taking action – especially referring to point 5 above, takes effort, courage and discipline:
The first time I came across this critical shift in mindset was at a Frontier Trainings course. Clinton Swaine, Frontier Trainings Lead Trainer introduced the idea of falling down five times and getting up six. And some days ago I came across a Japanese proverb: “Falling down seven times and getting up eight.”
I don’t know about you – but there are people for whom claiming their independence and vitality for the rest of their life seems such an alien idea that they have never ever considered that possibility! Yet another reason for writing this blog.
I want to reach you people with my blog here. The fact that you are still reading means you are asking yourself: “Is there something more for me here?” “What does Motion Mastery™ / Ulf have to offer?” I strongly believe, Motion Mastery™ offers a fantastic contribution to people’s health in general, and to your movement health in particular. The offer of a life rich in vitality and self-expression is captivating and the processes used are one of a kind.
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In two weeks time, i will be talking about the colour blue and being in the zone (I haven’t forgotten this blog post’s title yet.) I’ll bring it all together and make sense of it then. In the meantime, think of how you are moving and how it can be better.
It is my pleasure to continue improving the quality of your life through movement!
The use of reasoning as a means for getting along in life is something I like very much. I mean developing the discipline to think things through sequentially makes a lot of sense to me. And sometimes I am up the walls, when people just don’t seem to use their brains.
What I mean by sequential thinking is that very often in life there are things that have to come first before you do something else. It is so obvious that you can’t pour the tea in your cup when you still have to take your cup out of the cupboard and put it on the table or counter. It is so obvious. But in other matters we sometimes seem to believe in woo-woo. As if things would ever manifest by themselves just because we already have wished them to be so.
My partner and me were having disputes and discussions some days ago, and in the course of events I asked her to bring me that jug of water from the living room, please. “Yes“ she answered and when she did, she distracted herself from completing that task, went first on to do „quickly“ something else before then finishing that task, hurrying to bring me the jug, bumping into the door frame, hurting herself – all of which was unnecessary. And I was bitching to myself, that she would not have bumped into that door at all if only she simply completed that task straight forwardly. It was upsetting and hurtful at the same time to see this happening and seeing her bumping into the door frame.
And I then changed my attitude, because to expect from my partner to act reasonably was – at that point in time – just inappropriate. I had to admit to myself that reasoning may be a great tool, but before starting to act in a reasonable manner, we have to become able to access our reasoning. Me too. And it makes sense to me that we do not and maybe cannot access it all of the time. That key step, that transitioning moment, accessing some X-factor that enables us to start using our reasoning is something that I yet have to discover. Or maybe we can use it increasingly more often – like training or educating ourselves towards that?
What I reverted to, at the time of the event above was the only thing that I could imagine doing – i.e. expressing my love for her – as I do love her. But… (and the motorboat went on and on in my head: but but but but but but but but .…)
I really like this sentence where Frederick Matthias Alexander defines what makes it special to being human. In the human realm “… its members are in communication with their reason“. I love this wording – to be in communication with – and it is not the other person first – but we, I as much as anybody else, need to communicate with our faculty of reasoning first, before interacting with others; and more generally speaking before interacting with the outside world. This rings true for me and it hurts me when I see that reasoning is not the primary source of guidance. It does not seem to be the prevailing one.
We all need to find the time and the space to make that switch in order to become able to start reasoning. Somehow it is sad for me to admit this, but at the same time it is a good thing because it forces me to act with more humility and kindness towards my partner and towards others in general.
There is another side remark of F. M. Alexander in his chapter «Incorrect Conception» in his second book where he states, that “it is absurd to try to teach a person who is in a more or less agitated or even anxious condition. We must have that calm condition which is characteristic of a person whose reasoning processes are operative.“ For a moment let’s not get hung up on the fact that the situation I described was not in a teaching context, though Alexander refers in his statement to such a context. But even Alexander says half a page before that statement that he himself may make shipwreck against this kind of rock when encountering it in a teaching context.
I believe this is not a problem that only I experience, but we all are confronting this issue from time to time, every now and again and I am genuinely interested how you handle these moments. What “techniques” do you use to find a “calm condition”? I guess you all do have similar experiences. What solutions have you found? I’ld love to hear from you, how you deal with this question and how you act in a similar situations. Share your ideas here! Comments will be moderated in person.
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